How to make true friends?

intparent
Mon, 15 Oct 2012 18:37:56 +0000

You could ask if any of these people want to study together for upcoming tests or exams. Study together can then turn into getting coffee or pizza. Or you can turn the conversation to other things (movies, for example… mention that you are excited about an upcoming release, maybe they will be too and you can suggest seeing it as a group or something).

Are you living in a dorm? If so, be sure you do all the activities your hall/dorm does together. Leave your door open with some music playing if you are looking for company. Or check with hallmates to see if anyone wants to play cards in the evening.

Have you joined any clubs? Get involved with something you are interested in on campus. Consistently go to meetings, volunteer to help out with stuff, etc.

If you don’t have anyone to eat with, look for someone sitting alone and sit down. Strike up a conversation. I personally found that eating in the same place (or same rotation of places) in college was helpful in making connections. If you see someone you recognize from your classes, sit with them (even if they are with other friends).

Actual friendships are not instantaneously gained… it can take quite a while of going to meetings, study sessions, etc. before you break through into spending time in other ways. But the more contact you have with other people, the more likely it will happen.