how to stop being shy

rickle1
Mon, 15 Jan 2018 17:39:13 +0000

High school can be a great time and it can also be full of anxiety. What you’re describing is very normal. Very easy to be self conscious of things. You probably worry about what others think about you, etc. You’ll find this hard to believe, but most kids are actually thinking about themselves and share your same fears. It’s just part of the maturing process. Someone had a great idea surrounding comfort zone. I know this is very hard but try to take little steps every day. Contribute more in one class, express your ideas in another. What you’ll learn is the world didn’t end and you didn’t die and most kids really were more focused on themselves to even notice. Over a period of time, your comfort zone will have expanded and speaking up will be your new normal. I know it’s hard but the hardest part is just getting started. It becomes easier.

I have a kid who was, absent of stuttering, extremely introverted his first two years of high school. Painful for him to join groups outside his narrow friend group. Junior year he started (almost forced himself) to spread his wings and actually became president of the senior class. Had to meet with the principal almost weekly (very scary to him but became quite normal) to discuss plans and ultimately had to speak at graduation. Gained a lot of confidence along the way.

I know you will too.