How to Support Bullied Daughter

oldfort
Sun, 16 Oct 2011 09:43:59 +0000

This does sound more like a work situation, and it is not working. There should usually be good communication between boss and staff, for whatever reason they are not communicating. It is not clear to me whose fault it is. But if I was this teacher’s boss, I would say it is her more than Op’s daughter. The reason is this teacher had many more years of expereince, she knew what could have gone wrong at various school events, and she should have rehearsed it with OP’s daughter.

This kind of thing happens at work place, most of us have sat on both sides (boss and subordinate), and it is never easy. This past Fri I did make someone who work for me cry. She is my finance person, responsible for reporting my P&L to the world. She has the habit of changing numbers by adding something or subtracting something. It makes me look disorganized and not running a tight ship. Knowing her tendency, I had a meeting with her and her global manager to agree what we were going to report for the third quarter and projection for next year. We all agreed at the meeting what those numbers shuld be. After the meeting, her global manager and I both emailed our respective managers to give them the first indication of what those numbers would be. Sure enough, while I was at lunch, she instructed someone to change those numbers due to some stupid reason. I used some very strong words with her and made her stick with what we agreed with. She was very upset because she claimed she wouldn’t be able to stand by those numbers.

Now, if you just heard her side of the story, I would appear to be the unreasonable boss and maybe even as a bully. I don’t want to work like that with anyone (too much stress), it’s not good for her and it’s not good for me, so I am going to let her go (or maybe she will resign). In OP’s D case, she is not going to change this teacher, her focus should be on her school work and college applications and have a great senior year.