I am in pain

garland
Sun, 19 Aug 2007 07:58:27 +0000

Mythmom-- thanks for the kind words; I enjoy your posts, too.

Of course I agree that males and females are not the same; most would agree that men are more agressive, and more likely to be violent. But that doesn’t mean we would say, well, he’s male, what can you do, when someone beats someone up. We have invented a civilization which teaches that first instincts are not always right ones.

This young man obviously is not acting violently. He is acting selfishly, putting his personal comfort ahead of anothers, and not being reticent to let her know he’s done that. That’s plain bad manners. it doesn’t matter if he gets why the cake was important to her, or how much work she put into it.
It only matters that he, as a functioning adult, see others as as real as himself.

I don’t buy the guy excuse, or the teenager excuse. My own guy, when a teenager, would have known better than to be casually callous like that.

So i think the OP is doing exactly right, to keep being a good parent by gently, and with humor if possible, teach him that this is not civilized person behavior. Basically,everyone seeing others as real people is what makes the world habitable, to me.