I am in pain

momof07
Sun, 19 Aug 2007 12:08:13 +0000

While your son’s response was very rude and hurtful, I’m wondering if this was really the first time you’ve received such a blunt response. It seems to say - “stop trying so hard mom” - or “back off.” I’m not trying to be hurtful to you in suggesting this, but the circumstances beg the question.

That’s never easy to hear from our kids and it’s usually not a message delivered in a gentle way. Others are right…choose between confronting him - either as angry/hurt mom, or as give me a minute to calmly tell you why I’m hurt mom, or choose letting it go. You know your son. You know if this is just one more time that he’s sending you the back off message, or if he’s just really oblivious to being hurtful and telling you to back off is the last thing on his mind.