I am in pain

citygirlsmom
Sun, 19 Aug 2007 13:34:44 +0000

After I had my first baby, a c-section, I came home, the house had cigars, take out packages, a messy bed, etc…I cried…it wasn’t just tired cries or emotion for the baby, it was that my DH didn’t “get it” or think about my homecoming

Fast forward to baby # 2, I came home to a clean house, clean laundry, fridge full of food…he had gotten someone to come in, but heck, he thought of my homecoming this time, which was going to be tougher with a two year old aready there, and it meant so much that he “got it”

When we were dating, he bought me chocolate for Christmas, fine, but it turns out he bought his mom the same box, and then I went to get it from his apartment and lo and behold, there he was with his guy friends eating it

Well, needless to say, he learned his lesson- the first event, he knew he really blew it, yes he was excited, but he was clueless and rude

The chocolate event, I just told him he owed me BIG TIME…he was a young man who was actually raised really well, but would forget and needed to be reminded sometimes

I see my nephew and my friend’s son, they are true gentlemen, sure they will mess up, but not more than once the same way

Now they call their moms to see if mom needs something from the store, they say, hey mom, I want you to help me shop for my dorm, hey mom, let me do that

I am not blaming moms if their kids mess up, far from it, but if moms and dads don’t say much when they do and pretend it didn’t bother them or didn’t hurt, that does noone any good

you don’t have to do the pity thing, but you have every right to say, hey that hurt when you didn’t much care about the cake, remember this was my first Bday without you, and it was hard for me, and while I get that you have a fun life and are busy, and I do to, you can maybe think about what i am going through

and H, well, he should have called his son up and read him the riot act for treating his mother so shabbily, that is what dad’s are supposed to do