I feel like i have no one

inNeedOfPencils
Tue, 27 Sep 2011 02:07:18 +0000

I know how you feel…but remember this is a new start! No one knows anyone anymore. If people are hanging out together, ask if you can join. If they say no, what’s the worst that could happen? Invite people to go with you. In my hall, we never go to meals alone. We always wait around, even if we’re starving, until someone shows up to go with. And even if the other person is a stranger still, you get to know them while you eat. Introduce yourself to people in your classes. Join a club of some sort–try out for something you’ve never done before, but always wished you could. (I myself am trying out for a dance team even if I’ve never danced before. Never even been to a school dance.)

But most importantly, DON’T SIT IN YOUR DORM. If you must stay inside and sit around, sit around in the common room. People’ll pass by and you can talk to them. The majority of my hall spends their free time in the common room, and we do everything from playing DDR or Nintendo 64 games to rearranging furniture to eating chips that someone found in the kitchen. The few people who no one really knows are the ones who are never spending time in the common room. Your hall is your new family–spend time with them!

I’m an insanely shy and introverted person by nature, but someone told me recently that friendships are huge investments. They could take a little to initialize, or a lot, but they require constant and consistent attention, but they’re worth the risk. But it takes effort. And courage. To put yourself out there. And if you just let the people or opportunities slip by because you were too frightened, because then you’d only be cheating yourself. Let loose a little. Once you have no one’s standards to live up to, then you’ll be the one people come running after.