I hate having a roommate in College

tucsonmom
Thu, 07 Dec 2017 23:03:55 +0000

In order to try to get what you want, you have to communicate with your roommate. If you want “alone time” in the room for a certain time period each day, then you actually have to talk to your roommate and tell her your request.

If neither of you is even saying hello to each other, then you’re both being rude and childish. Grow up.

However, if what you really want is to have an undetermined amount of “alone time” at random times of day on any particular day of the week whenever you want, you will never get that in this particular living situation.

The only way you will get that is by not having a roommate at all…when you have the bedroom to yourself 100% of the time.

Cracking knuckles and stuff like that? Yes, that would definitely get annoying after awhile. But look at it from another point of view. Perhaps there are things that you are doing which really annoy her. Neither of you really knows for sure what annoys the other person because nobody is talking to each other.

You could get some noise-cancelling head phones. Ear plugs. Something like that which could tune out your roommate’s noises. You could listen to music using head phones or ear buds.

Why do your roommate’s sleep habits bother you so much?

What do you do during “alone time?” What purpose does your alone time serve for you personally? For example, do you find that you usually need a certain amount of time each day where you don’t have to interact with people and be social with them? Or do you also use “alone time” to study? If so, can you also study in the library, in a common room in your dorm, or somewhere else or does your ideal study environment absolutely have to be you in your bedroom with music playing in the background and with nobody else in the room?

Does “alone time” mean:

nobody but you is in the room

you listen to your music without head phones as loud or quiet as you want

you watch whatever TV show you want without head phones as loud or quiet as you want

you talk to friends/family on the phone and you don’t want other people hearing what you are saying

You might need to consider being a little more flexible.