I hate my roommate now

momoney77
Fri, 09 Feb 2007 14:20:07 +0000

alwaysfaithful–D was in a similar situation as you. Her roommate invited an out of state guest to stay with them for 4 days without even consulting with my D to see if it was okay. D bit her tongue as she did not want to look like the bad guy. She also knew, if she wanted, she could go to the RA, however, that would have made HER look bad, so that wasn’t an option. I might add that her room mates friend was of the opposite sex which p****d her off even more. However, she waited until after he left to have a conversation with her. I think her roommate appreciated this. Basically, D stated she would have appreciated it if she would have consulted her first before having him over. The nice thing was that they were out most of the time so my D had the place to herself. Also, the friend was very respectful of her space and privacy.

I don’t feel you are off base to feel the way you do; however, if you don’t want it to happen again, it would be wise to communicate with your room mate how you feel and give him some examples of what you felt was rude behaviour on their part. I’ll bet next time they will either be out of the room earlier, or much quieter. :)