I Hate the Hook-Up/Drinking Culture at my school

AlexaBelle
Mon, 29 Jul 2013 14:49:26 +0000

Attending a T15ish LAC and will be entering my Sophomore Year. I’m not much of a partier, nor a drinker, but it seems that the atmosphere at my school surrounds those two things. I feel very uncomfortable in small tight settings or large gatherings where majority of the other students are wasted out of their minds, making out/hooking up/having sex with complete strangers, and gyrating on one another at dances.

I love going to the movies, seeing concerts, heading to museums, going out to see the city (my college is in the middle of nowhere), going to theme parks, the beach, rollerblading, ice-skating, etc. But it seems like the oppurtunity never arises for me to do those things. There’s either a financial or transportation constraint, but most of all it seems like most people on campus have accepted the hook-up culture and rarely try to deviate from it. Every weekend night is the same: drink until your wasted and/or hook-up. It’s fun every once in a while, but I’ve gotten sick with it. The only alternative is to stay in my dorm and watch tv shows/movies. I"m not anti-social, I’m fairly sociable, I just don’t take to drunken hookups, it all feels far to superficial and stifling to me.

Worst of all, I’d hoped I might be able to get into a serious relationship this year. Now that idea seems unlikely. The only lasting relationships at my school (a rariety) are with those who decided to consistently hook up and made it work, but those are a dime a dozen and I don’t see myself ever submitting to the culture. I’m much rather get to know a guy really well for a while and then go from there without it escalating to anything physical/sexual.

Is there anything I can do about my weekend nights?