I Hate the Hook-Up/Drinking Culture at my school

baktrax
Tue, 30 Jul 2013 01:54:51 +0000

No matter what the school culture, a group of friends with the same mindset can do wonders for your social life. I’m sure there are other people at your school with the same desire to do something other than going to a party every weekend, and it’s just taking you a while to find them. See if there are other people hanging around your dorm that would be up to dong something else. Try to join a club that your interested in or that does a lot of socials (or any sort of group activities). There may be clubs that go on food runs or have weekend trips to local places, and there are often at least a few students with cars who are willing to drive. Instead of waiting for opportunities to magically appear, ask people if they want to get something to eat or go see a movie.

With regards to financial barriers, try to find free things to do. There are often student discounts at movie theaters or local attractions. For the transportation issue, see if anyone who has a car would be up for doing something on the weekend with a small group, and offer to pitch in for gas. Perhaps you could rent a zip car, if that’s available near you? Or if your close enough to something you want to do or somewhere you want to be, a group of you can pitch in for a cab ride. Is there any sort of public transportation that you can use?

Once you start doing things, it’ll become easier and easier to find a group who wants to do something and to find a way to make it happen. In my experience, the thrill of parties usually dies down as students get older, and more people may be looking for other things to do.

With relationships, just wait it out. You don’t need to actively seek out a long Tm relationship while you are in college. Being around people you have common interests a lot usually helps you meet people that you click with. Don’t be in any particular up rush about it.