I wasn't sure where to post this...

huguenot
Tue, 20 May 2008 22:34:47 +0000

ssff–

I think sometimes when we’re hurt, we get angry and want to hurt someone. When you can’t do that, unfortunately, sometimes you try to hurt yourself. This is bad. Really bad.

If it’s not that, but you are trying to change who you are to appeal to her, you need to stop. You deserve someone who will love you for who you are - and there are plenty of “good girls” (and some “bad” ones, too) looking for “good guys”. Please don’t let this setback derail the great young man you are.

You sound a lot like me in high school. I went in as someone who was totally on the straight and narrow. I wanted to be liked so badly, that I did what everyone (seemingly everyone) did in order to fit in. It worked, I was popular in that group, but I was miserable. I was a Christian and felt awfully convicted that I ought not to be doing that stuff. My freshman year in college, I finally realized that I had to stop living on the fence. That if folks didn’t like who I was, well, who needed them? I sought out some Christian groups on campus, got involved in student government and made tons of friends - one of which I married four years later. Be who you are. It’s easier, happier, and really, more fun.