I'm trapped at my college

1of42
Thu, 03 Jan 2008 01:03:58 +0000

Well, at this point you only have a couple of options:

1) Try to ignore the partying tendencies. Have fun with your friends when they’re not out partying, get them to respect your wish not to have the party atmosphere pushed on you, and carve out your social niche in that way.

2) If you feel that you cannot have a satisfactory social/college life because (even after recognizing your tendency to judge the party people, and correcting that tendency) those people party so much that you literally cannot have any fun without joining them, then transfer.

Unfortunately, while I’d like to suggest something else, those really are the only options. I’m not you, I don’t go to your college, and I can’t really tell you which you should pick, or whether the first is even possible for you; that is something you’ll have to decide for yourself.

What I can tell you is that other than at BYU, BJU, and Pensacola Christian College, there will be lots of drinking and partying. Welcome to college. If you cannot deal with that, you’re going to have a hard time anywhere. If you can get over it a bit and learn to not judge people for actions that don’t affect you directly, you could end up having a lot of fun. If transferring is what you decide, look especially for places with substance-free dorms. There’s lots like that here at Princeton, and from what I can tell they provide a great atmosphere for those who want to live their college life without partying and rampant drinking.