IQ results... Can anyone explain this to me?

sbjdorlo
Thu, 07 Apr 2011 01:24:54 +0000

But Eric, that is one child and one child’s story. I’m glad it has worked out for your child.
The primary reason I started homeschooling was to avoid labels for my oldest (either profoundly gifted or adhd, both of which his testing labeled him). I am an ex-special ed teacher and I knew what would happen to him.

However, the various diagnoses for my middle son have been extremely helpful in peeling back the layers of the onion. I can love him all I want but I have felt very helpless and I thank God for professionals who have been working with him.

Call me a failure as a parent, I don’t mind, but I didn’t recognize many things. Would you say the same thing about his type I diabetes, that he’s using it as a crutch? We didn’t recognize his diabetes until right before he went into the hospital. I didn’t recognize the fact that he had a hearing loss. I didn’t recognize the fact that his eyes don’t converge on the page and reading has been like running a race with a ball and chain wrapped around his leg (and only surgery to both eyes will correct it) and I certainly didn’t recognize ADD in this child but today his counselor confirmed what the psych told me last year and oh, it makes sense. The great news is that they are working together on strategies to deal with it and my son is so excited. Crutch? No, I don’t think so.

As far as my oldest, remember that I was a public school teacher and very “in the box”. Testing helped me see how much I was underestimating his abilities. No wonder he wasn’t interested in what I was offering!

Yes, I’ve had many failures as a parent and while testing certainly has it’s downside (I will agree that my youngest son’s assessment for asperger’s was a waste of time), for my older two, it has reaped benefits and has helped me have some guidance in this challenge I call parenting.