Is Self-Doubt Part of the Process?

bridgenail
Wed, 01 Aug 2018 17:34:50 +0000

And to add to @NYCMusicDad 's comment: I think the practice, preparation, study…can extend from the instrument to the college search as well to help alleviate self-doubt.

In my D’s jr year, I remember having some real doubts. Not being musical, music acceptances seemed so mysterious and complicated. For my D, she was doing a lot of avoidance in Jr year as I’m sure she too was concerned. But as we started visiting schools, listening to choirs, seeing productions, my D became a lot more confident (and me too!). She also went from an early list of big, impressive names (bc that all she knew) to a much more thoughtful list (with a variety of schools) as she learned more. I think as they engage more with the process, they start to understand the talent-levels and educational options and begin to adjust to “best fit”.

So @MusicNerd2 I think you and your D are right where you should be. In another year, you’ll probably feel a lot more confident…while still worried…as that’s just how it works.