Is spike absolutely necessary for Stanford/Harvard/Ivys?

anotheroboemom
Wed, 11 Dec 2024 17:34:42 +0000

NiceUnparticularMan:

But at least I couldn’t entirely protect my kid from stress, anxiety, disappointment, and so on. I could just put whatever weight I had on the more positive side of the emotional scale as appropriate, and the rest was really out of my control

In my opinion, it is challenging to parent really driven/high achieving kids. They will set their sights high, they will have great achievements. But at some point they will “fail”. They don’t get the lead in the play, they don’t win the race, they don’t get into the dream school.

I know I used to put great effort to help smooth over my son’s disappointments. It hurts as a parent to see their pain. But it is so important for them to figure out to process and get past their disappointments. It is right for them to be sad, frustrated at times. But how they move past the “failure” is the greatest achievement they can make. Because in my opinion, the biggest stressor in life is needing to maintain perfection.