Is this friendship toxic?

Lindagaf
Mon, 06 May 2019 19:03:21 +0000

Why not have a frank conversation with her, stating what you stated here? You could also email if it’s easier. “Hi Julie, I am worried about what’s been going on…I’m feeling that our relationship is being damaged, and I’d like to help you if I can, but I also don’t feel it’s fair to cancel plans and give me a hard time about seeing my boyfriend. If you want to talk, please call. I understand that maybe things are hard for you, but it’s frustrating to have plans changed at the last minute.”

Frankly, to me she sounds insecure, especially given that she knows there is a plan but constantly asks if it’s still happening. What that really means is “am I still included?”