Is this obsession healthy

07DAD
Mon, 12 Mar 2007 15:34:57 +0000

Ray111

I think you have now touched on another aspect of the pressure/stress situation.

I acknowledge that my S took ownership of the process early in the game. Sounds like your two S’s did the same.

To what extent do you think some of a student’s stress is from feeling that he or she is not really ready or even wants to go to college? For those who appreciate the humor of seeing a flat tire on a Rolls Royce, my S’s prep school uniformly experiences some of its graduates burning out at some pretty “elite” colleges and universities.

I wonder how many parents give off the “vibe,” or come right out and announce that it simply is not acceptable for the S or D to decline or delay going to college.

FYI-- that’s one of the reasons I made my S the offer of a gap year.