Kid's Ugly Break-up - Get involved or no?

CountingDown
Sat, 09 Sep 2017 16:25:10 +0000

I bought a special book for S2 when he lost his first tooth. He loved that book and he had taken it to the GF’s house. After four years, they broke up. 2.5 years later, after my heart attack, I contacted the GF and told her I’d gotten S that book and it would mean a great deal to me if I could pay for her to mail it back. (She knew about my medical situation through other friends. She and S2 have had no contact in years.) She sent it back, insisted on paying the postage.

I still haven’t told S I retrieved the book. But it’s here for him and that was I wanted to happen.

I am a big sentimental basketcase. Crying just typing this!

ETA: I contacted S2’s GF when things seemed very on the rocks (I didn’t know she had already broken up with him.). She was gracious, but it was over the line on my part. I didn’t make that mistake again.

When S1 and DIL split up, we asked if we could give DIL our love, and they arranged a time for that. Otherwise, we have not been in touch with her. It makes me sad, but it’s not my choice to intrude. I am thankful that they are very cordial and still have a good relationship. I’m FB friends with her mom, but we both adhere to keeping our children out of the conversation.