Kid's Ugly Break-up - Get involved or no?

psychmomma
Sat, 09 Sep 2017 21:10:01 +0000

Stay out of it as much as possible, but be supportive in moving forward.

When my D was destroyed by a breakup while at home with me, I wanted to yell at my D’s ex, call his mom on him, and many other fantasies. I felt almost as heartbroken as she did - because it was unbearable to see her so upset.

I didn’t do anything except be there for my D. I never bad-mouthed the ex, fully expecting he could end up back in the picture. Even though the breakup was bad, the guy still had good qualities that didn’t go away. I did as @Massmomm mentioned, and talked with D about the behaviors that are typical of a solid person, and what type of person she deserved. She did move on a little, and even dated several other guys.

(And then, yes, they got back together. For the third time. And they’ve been together again for a year- bringing the grand total to 4 years.)