Kid's Ugly Break-up - Get involved or no?

preppedparent
Fri, 08 Sep 2017 22:59:39 +0000

On the topic of why give a cherished stuffed animal? I understand. Here’s my rationale:

When I was a young adult and hopelessly in love, young man and me wanted to exchange meaningfully personal things as a show of love and commitment. This is sort of like the equivalent of wedding rings and vows in realtionships where marriage really isn’t realistic. On some level, adolescents realize they can’t support themselves yet, and get married, but the feelings are similar.

Young fellow gave me his “blood wings,” from jump school. These are the wings that are pounded into your chest signaling bravery, machoism and the like. I gave him my birthstone ring that my grandmother had bought for me when I turned 13. At the time we were both just finishing college.

After the breakup that was difficult, I sent him the wings back letting him know I thought he should have them, and I asked for my ring back. He sent it back, but today, I have no idea where that ring is.

The point being, the stuffed animal was a symbol of love, which was dear to him, a part of himself he was giving toher, but the item itself may not have enduring sentiment, and in the end may not be worth fighting for.