Lack of maturity?

KLSD
Tue, 28 Jan 2020 00:47:52 +0000

Staying up late may be aligned with the hours his classmates work together; we do not dismiss nurses, doctors and police officers who work at night. D1 is an early riser and chose early classes. S1 does the opposite at the same institution. He is very successful and just fills a different part of his day, with ADD and a sequencing issue. He will not give up on an assignment, but stay up until it is completed instead of planning ahead.

Living at home on breaks is difficult even though I tried to make some simple rules such as no showers after 1 am. I know he is messier here than at school. He is definitely missing the perspective of the rest of his family members when we are all living together, living in his own world. Ugh!!!

I do not check on their whereabouts at school and have zero desire to do so. My children have experienced heartbreaking loss during their teen years and some days are difficult. My concern is their, health, emotional safety and helping them find their passions. That is a different approach for each one of my children, but not as a task master. My discussions with them are about encouraging them to take the next steps and getting over the small humps that can be frightening for anyone, writing emails to professors to ask about research, applying for jobs and grad school, writing interview thank you letters, writing a CV or resume. Everyone thrives when they are engaged and we each have ridiculous fears. Many of us have spouses or partners that support and encourage us. Until my children have another half, I’ll continue to be their champion when they are reluctant to talk with their peers. I truly believe that this is the best part of parenting, enjoying their successes, not as a helicopter parent or task master, but as a mentor who knows them well.