Lack of maturity?

mom2and
Mon, 27 Jan 2020 13:25:04 +0000

What is unacceptable? He may be capable of higher grades, but what time he wakes up in the morning? Is that really something a parent of a college student should dictate? A parent has no control over that with a college student, nor can they force the kid to go to talk to a professor (and no way to determine if they actually do that or not).

What do you suggest she do @Lindagaf if he is not meeting all of these expectations? I didn’t see anything in your post about how to “make” him do so. I don’t think the OP wants him to leave school to earn money. If he doesn’t get a internship or other paid job, he won’t have any money to spend and will have a harder time getting a job when he graduates. Depending on the major, it is not that easy to get an internship, especially one that is paid and near home.

That being said, many don’t seem to understand how frustrating it can be to watch a kid underachieve. While ADD makes it harder for the student, it is also difficult as a parent to parse what is due to ADD and what is due to immaturity or laziness. Accepting our kids for who they are, not what we wish they would be, while wanting to help them be the best they can be, is a difficult task.