Lack of maturity?

Lindagaf
Mon, 27 Jan 2020 14:13:06 +0000

@mom2and It’s pretty easy to say “If you’ve got time to stay awake all night playing video games, you’ve got time for a job, etc.” And I mean a part time job, maybe ten hours a week, which is typical on college campuses. Sleeping in until noon a couple of times a week is fine, but everyday? I don’t think that’s fine. My kids can do that when they pay their own bills.

It’s not unreasonable to set expectations. This student is a sophomore. He’s been in college long enough to know how to manage his time. He’s at least 19, if not 20.

The parent came here asking if her son was immature, and seemed to wonder if other parents thought this was acceptable, saying she makes no excuses for his mild condition, as she described it. So I feel, yes, he’s immature, no, I don’t think his behavior is acceptable, and there’s a way to mitigate it. Make him get a job. Make him get up and do stuff. If she’s footing the bill, she gets to tell him what’s acceptable and what isn’t, within reason. Getting a job and not sleeping until noon every day is reasonable. If he has a job, it’s a fair bet he’s not going to sleep until noon every day.