LDR - can it last?

dissonance
Sat, 11 Jul 2009 17:30:57 +0000

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years. This fall, I will be going to a college about 2 1/2 hours away. We both want to stay together. I had no fear about it until reading some threads here, and having people constantly tell me that “everyone” breaks up with their HS sweetheart once they make it to college. And now I have realized that I am really, really scared to lose him. This is completely out of character for me - I am an independent and secure person, and I have NEVER been the type of girl who would say she would “die” without her boyfriend, or centers her life around him. But it really, really scares me, because my boyfriend is my BEST friend. He is more my best friend than my boyfriend. I have been with him through so much: the fight with an eating disorder, losing my other best friend of 7 years to the “wrong” crowd, surviving manipulate and abusive parents. We have done so much growing up together, and I feel like losing him would mean losing a big part of myself.
Why is there so much negativity surrounding LDRs? I read that many people still keep their BFF from HS - so why is this different? He plans on visiting me once or twice a month and staying overnight, which really isn’t THAT much of a stress because I see him about once a week during the summer, anyway. Yes, I will miss him, but we both are busy people and have learned to manage. He has been working 30+ hours a week during the summer and has been taking 3 classes at the local CC, and I am busy with piano, online classes, and learning guitar. This past year, our relationship has been a juggling act but we have really learned the art of balance. I just can’t see him not being a part of my life!