Living Together During College

sungkew
Wed, 08 Jun 2016 15:49:30 +0000

I was just curious: is it really such a terrible idea to move in together during college?

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now and we’ve started discussing what our future is going to look like, and during those discussions, we’ve brought up living together. Now, we’re not thinking about living together these next two semesters (our sophomore year), but we were thinking about it for junior year. And I just want to know if it would be the worst idea in the world, or if there’s a possibility that it could actually turn into something positive.

I’ve looked at a lot of articles that have talked about the steps that someone should take in order to know if they’re prepared to move in together, and a lot of it is true for us as a couple. Over the past school year, to be honest, I practically lived in his dorm room. His roommate was incredibly lax and wasn’t even there half the time, so we had the experience of living in the same room for the length of an entire semester. Were there some fights every once in a while? Yes, but I think that comes with every roommate, especially if you’re comfortable with them. As well as that, we’ve discussed how things would get paid, how rent for the apartment has to be split either way, and I’m sure we could have that good ol’ “what happens if we break up” talk. I’m a pretty mature person and I think I could handle it. If it didn’t work out, it wouldn’t be hard for me to get back on campus.

As well as that, it kind of makes sense to just give moving in together a shot. We’re going to live seperately this coming year, but I know that we’ll just end up living at each other’s places the moment we’re on campus. And if moving in together doesn’t work out, then at least we gave it a shot, right? If things keep going as they are, we’re bound to move in together anyways in the future, so why not give it a run now? I feel like if we break up because we moved in together then we were bound not to work out in the end anyways.

But, yeah, I just wanted to get some opinions on this. I’m not one for the whole wait until marriage mindset, so that doesn’t really matter to me. Gotta try the milk before you buy the cow, right? I feel like it’d be even worse to get married and then figure out I despise living with the guy, so that whole argument doesn’t really sway me. But, again, just looking for some insightful views on this. I’d really appreciate some deep discussion on the whole thing. If you don’t think it’s a good idea, explain why. If you think it’s a great idea, still explain why. I’m open to discussion.