Living Together During College

PengsPhils
Sat, 11 Jun 2016 03:35:01 +0000

I think you’ve thought this out well - as others have said, you have time - if junior year comes and you guys still are 100% in for this, go for it!

I’m very much in line with @romanigypsyeyes , especially on the disagreement with that final paragraph from @Ranza123 's initial post.

I’m right in the middle of my third year - I met my SO and best friend early freshman year - we knew from the getgo that it was serious, and we basically did the “live out of each other’s dorms” for over a year now. I recently moved into my own studio single - what we have done is basically fully moved in together, but my SO still has their own place if absolutely needed. So far, they have yet to use it, and no one would be able to tell that we both don’t live in the studio single.

There’s some complications/details there beyond our control with financials, parents (and varying levels of involvement) and all, but that type of route may be worth exploring in some fashion tailored to your scenario.

If you do go for the legally living together in terms of a lease, make sure you have a good worst case exit plan (as you’re planning, but really be sure it’s more than a simple conversation. Write it down like a contract) - breaking up and realizing it wasn’t going to work is not a bad thing IMO - getting stuck in a bad predicament because of it can and should be avoided, and would be a mistake.

Socially, we both had the freshman college experience and had enough - we have a close group of friends now, mostly shared but we each have our own branches. A serious relationship will have social effects, but it can be far worth it for a SO and best friend in one that you care about. In the end, we spend an absurd amount of time together, all by choice. If you’re already doing that, and know each others living habits, moving in will probably make life easier in many ways than harder.

Best of luck! If you have any specific questions, I suspect we have a lot of similarities in our situations.