Love Sick Freshman

deb922
Wed, 06 Aug 2008 13:58:12 +0000

My H is not behaving rationally, I know that. On top of everything else that is happening in our life, my H had a heart attack at the end of March. It’s been very hard for the entire family but mostly for him. He’s on a lot of medicine and his life has changed forever. It also is hard for me because I am so worried for him all the time. I am trying not to create stress in his life because the doctors think that stress is what caused the heart attack.

But it’s a fine line because I need to be there for my D also. She is upset about the move and her dad’s health but her dad is having trouble seeing that.

Before anyone says anything, I know we all need counseling. It’s hard right now because no one is living in the same city. I’ve had advice that I need to lay off my H for the time being and let him try to absorb this situation (new job, new city, D going away to college, it is a lot of stresses). I am angry that after the heart attack that the doctors did not recommend counseling. I hear that it is common for people to be depressed after a heart attack. It would be so much easier for my H to seek counseling if the doctors had perscribed it when he had the heart attack.

My H is trying to come to terms with his anger towards his D. It’s very irrational and things came to a head during our family vacation. His mother intervened and I think that is why my H is trying to reconcile his relationship towards his D.