Love Sick Freshman

kcphobo
Thu, 07 Aug 2008 19:00:43 +0000

LifeIsShort–A friend’s daughter went to the “close to home” college because of a boyfriend still in high school, and she came home every weekend. The mother learned to keep her mouth shut, and also realized her daughter had great anxiety about leaving home period. The D. ended up getting some counseling. Finally after a year it became clear to her D. that college was a lot more fun than hanging out with the boyfriend in her hometown and that chapter of her life closed without too much heartbreak.

My older D. was a RA and she says that a lot of freshmen girls come to school still in relationships with their hs boyfriends, but most come back after winter break without them. My younger D. will be a freshman this year, and she and her boyfriend expect to “stay together” all 4 years despite the 1,000 mile distance. I think time will take care of this, too.

Your son should go, and it might help if he knew that he is welcome to come home as often as practical (and affordable).