Marriage After College.

cptofthehouse
Sat, 11 Jun 2011 20:31:30 +0000

Getting married during grad school can be a problem if you need financial aid. I know a number of students who have to do the calculations both ways because it can make a big difference, especially if the spouse is working.

A lot of this is not something that can be totally planned. If one of my kids is so in love and committed to someone during the college years, and wants to get married young, though I would have misgivings for all of the reasons against young marriage, I wouldn’t stand in the way though I would give the info to them.

Statistically, the younger couples do not do as well in terms of longevity of the marriage. That I know. But where the stats start diverging, I don’t know. Clearly a couple of teenagers getting married are not going to have a great chance of making a go of it and the stats show that clearly. But where they stand for a pair of 21 year olds vs 24 year olds or 28 or 30+, I don’t know.

My childhood friend married at age 19 and had a child at age 20. Divorced, and remarried some years later. Now divorced again, and she moved away from her adult kids and old community and is enjoying her life as a single woman, something she feels she never had a chance to experience. She was an at home high school kid, then had a steady boyfriend and was preparing for marriage and then a baby and mother/wifehood for the next 30 years.