Marriage during college?

Mombot
Sat, 06 Oct 2007 01:06:03 +0000

2sonmama–whatever will be, will be. I do NOT approve of any kind of knee-jerk reaction about “when” it is OK to get married. I came of age in the '80s and many, many good and healthy relationships were discarded in favor of the great unknown because we all drank the kool-aid of thinking we were too young at age 21/22 to settle down and marry our college boyfriends.

I hope kids today are smart enough to know that when they meet somebody who makes them happy they should just embrace the possibilities and if they want to get married, get married.

If a marriage fails, it is not because the participants are “too young.” Youth is also correlated with poverty, and early childbearing puts further stress and increasing likelihood of poverty. Economic strain is probably the culprit, but age gets blamed.

I know many, many people who waited to marry and they don’t do as well as the ones that married their college sweethearts. College together builds a very strong shared value base and a shared network of friends, which are good foundations for a happy marriage.