Maryland over Wisconsin: Crazy?

jmmom
Mon, 19 Mar 2007 16:19:15 +0000

I think both schools are excellent options, UMd worthy of serious consideration for all of the reasons you mentioned. However, I urge you not to recommend one over the other to him.

I say this as the parent of a kid who found himself not so in love with his choice of school. During that period, I got down on my knees and gave thanks daily that it was his choice, not mine. And I examined my conscience heavily that it wasn’t my urging that made it his choice. Can’t say that I have a totally 100% sure-fire clean bill of health on that last one; but I’m pretty much in the clear ;). Makes for a lot better mental health for both me and for him that it was his choice.

So, think about what it might be like if he defers to your recommendation and it doesn’t work out. Just a thought.