Maybe I should have had seven kids.

younghoss
Wed, 16 Mar 2011 14:21:16 +0000

Don’t know if it will help you, but I sometimes had talks with my S. He is not “aspergry” nor did he have the additional challenges of having physical and emotional sensory challenges as you say, EK4. But I can tell you what helped me in similar (it’s all fine) scenarios. I came to him in a nice calm time, and told him I needed his help. I didn’t just say- let’s talk about your grades. This put him in a listening mood. I then told him I needed his help to understand how failing a class(to use Ek’s example) was fine. I had responses ready for a variety of responses he might give. The most common one was that he’d improve. I’d say “thats great!” and then ask to hear his plan, and asked how I could help make HIS plan happen for him. I tried to make the tone- tell me your plan so I can help, rather than shape up, Mister!. It often led to us making a plan. Anyway, it all started from there, good luck to you!