Maybe I should have had seven kids.

somemom
Wed, 16 Mar 2011 20:14:52 +0000

MomLive brought up a good point. Once our kids are out of HS, it is no longer our job to direct their lives, to fix their problems. I had to teach myself specifically to NOT feel guilty if I could not fix something or worse, to not want to hear the issues because I could not make it better. Rather I realised my best role is to provide as many pros & cons as I could so that they can make an informed decision.

This, over time when I proved that I really was not secretly supporting one side or the other, allowed my kids to ask for help or input now & again.