Maybe I should have had seven kids.

emeraldkity4
Wed, 16 Mar 2011 13:59:35 +0000

Younger D has had a lot of stress & anxiety from when she was born. Her sensory stuff makes it hard to filter out things, not just physically but emotionally. She is very hard on herself- but I always say the wrong thing, at the wrong time.

She is probably a lot like me-but she is strong in areas, that I am not. ( it would have never occurred to me to explore on the other side of the world when I was 18- especially by myself- I can barely think about it now!).

I know I am all too ready with suggestions- but it is SO HARD, when she is failing her classes, not to ask- what she has tried, and not to want to make her follow certain things in order for us to keep funding her school.

But she is so touchy, that I have never been able to scold her. ( not that I never yelled :o ) Just looking at her when she did something as a child, would make her fall in hysterics- but because of her aspergry issues, it wasn’t something she had control over.

When I hear her say " it doesn’t matter", or " everything is fine", I go crazy.
I did find some resources from when her sister was on academic probation of what to put into place- I am going to make copies of it ( but white out the school- cause all I need is to wave her sister in front of her face) & ask her to look at it.

It is so hard not to fix things- especially since my H is opposite. He doesn’t see that the tire is wobbly, until it is rolling off down the street.

Maybe if I just vent here- I can keep my mouth shut when I go see her.
crossing fingers.