Maybe I should have had seven kids.

spideygirl
Wed, 16 Mar 2011 17:42:31 +0000

You can, if she has never had one or hasn’t had one recently, pay for a neuropsych educational assessment. You can also pay for a counselor. As for us as parents, I guess all we can do is offer to talk about it with them (i.e. be a good listener). Beyond this, most of our communication really can be no more than saying things like, “I trust you to know what is best for you” or “You are so capable. I know you will figure out the best thing to do”. We have to give our kids the opportunity to screw up, and also the knowledge that we have faith in their strength (their ability to find their way out). Failing or screwing something up is often a big part of figuring out where we really belong. Sometimes, losing at something is a gift.