Meddling Grandparents

LongRangePlan
Sun, 08 Apr 2012 23:24:57 +0000

I posted back in Feb. about the pressure my son was getting from grandparents. S ended up being rejected by MIL’s Famous Private School with Big Football Program (FPSBFP). This saves us the cost ($220K) for a bachelor’s degree. S has happily chosen the smaller, not-famous school with which he became enamored last fall during our 2 visits. MIL is very upset that S didn’t get in to FPSBFP, and it bothers her that “no one” has ever heard of the school he has chosen. Meanwhile, my own parents seem to understand, sort of, that S’s choice has the degree program that is perfect for him. But they, too, are unhappy that “no one” has ever heard of it, particularly in their seniors-only gated community where “everyone’s” grandkids are going to Cal or Stanford. Our S did not apply to Cal or Stanford. Probably wouldn’t have gotten in, but also, once he started seriously thinking about degrees rather than D-1 sports, just wasn’t interested.