Meddling Grandparents

starbright
Wed, 01 Feb 2012 22:56:44 +0000

I don’t have advice but can use some! We are in the same but different boat (in Canada) and I just want to say I feel your pain.

The grandfather in this case (located in the NE of the US), is obsessed with a few schools that he deems worthy. To humor him, D applied to those schools. But her first choice (and where she just got accepted early!) is highly regarded here in Canada, it is fantastic for her major and a perfect fit for her! She knew how her grandfather would respond when she told him, so she would not. Sad sad sad.

I did end up writing an email about her acceptance, and using the opportunity to tell him all the ways by which this school is fantastic and backing it up with data and facts. But when they called, H was interrogated for 30 minutes on this school and how can it be so great.

So so so tiresome. They aren’t footing a penny of the bill. Moreover, both H and I are professors, and H was trained in the field D wants to go in. You’d THINK FIL would at least have a little respect for our and D’s opinion to know what is best for her. Grr.

I just so wanted him to not to give her a hard time, and to be able to celebrate with her and mostly for her to feel she’s making him proud. Especially as she got into one of the most selective schools in the country, and into engineering, and with a scholarship. Instead, she has to deal with this nonsense.

This too shall pass I keep telling myself.