Men's Soccer

fenwaypark
Wed, 07 Oct 2015 16:39:07 +0000

Unfortunately this is how many coaches operate at all levels. Manipulative. Selfish. Keeping players (and parents) on the hook to suit the coach’s needs and career goals and not doing what is best or what is fair for the player.

My experience is different.

My experience is that college coaches want to win. Good coaches understand that winning is based on talent and team chemistry. Instances of individual malcontent occur, and it is the coach’s job to prevent that from turning into team dissension. It is not the coach’s job to cater to each individual’s complaints about profanities in the club house or receiving equal amounts of attention.

In the pre-edited version of the original post, it was revealed that the school is a D3. So no athletic scholarship is involved. Presumably the OP’s son was admitted with coach support. Maybe he could have got in on his own, don’t know. Maybe critics can say that was just selfish of the coach, but the youngster benefited nonetheless.

[Posts are accumulating faster than I can type] So it now seems that the complaint has been distilled down to no team-building efforts as promised. That’s not any one individual’s issue. It is a team issue, if it is one at all. A call to the (experienced) coach from a freshman’s mom, telling him he should do more team building stuff–well I think that strategy has a big risk of backfiring.