Mental disabilities in brother

Creekland
Mon, 29 Nov 2021 00:33:17 +0000

You asked if anyone else had someone like that. It’s once I realized my dad and my sister have mental illnesses that I was able to accept them for who they are instead of thinking they’re not worthy of my time.

My dad has since passed away. My sister I still wish would change to become even a little bit on the normal scale - and I 100% wish I hadn’t told dad she could be the executrix for his estate as my uncle and I would help her out. She won’t accept help AND won’t/can’t do the estate (dad died in 2018). She’s on her computer or betting on sports teams/lottery - whatever. She’s on the 4th lawyer now. They’re all “great” until they are “awful” and get fired. (FWIW, the first one was awful.)

I won’t give her money except for her birthday and Christmas, but I will listen by text or phone and occasionally gently prod. Doing the latter gets me on the naughty list for a while though.

And I’m trying to support my nephew to help him get his inheritance from my dad that he can’t get because sis won’t/can’t do the estate. Fortunately my nephew appears to have a good job he likes driving truck.

You’re not alone and I agree with the others that it helps tremendously to realize it’s a mental illness, not really a lifestyle choice. Kudos to you for caring and being a listening ear.

Sis is among the 50% mentioned upthread who is sure it’s the world who is wrong, not her.