Mental disabilities in brother

Catcherinthetoast
Tue, 30 Nov 2021 16:25:16 +0000

conmama:

Sometimes I have a hard time feeling sorry for him because he was abusive with his children.

I am sympathetic to any physical or mental challenges he is facing but don’t view them as mutually exclusive relative to him being a flawed or bad person beyond his illness.

I don’t think being an abusive parent is excusable based upon a mental illness diagnosis. To do so would stigmatize all of those who face similar challenges and likely create reluctance to be properly diagnosed. This person sounds like a bad person who also happens to be an ill person.

If his behavior is as abhorrent as you describe perhaps some distance is in you and your family’s best interest.