Mom problems? It's getting annoying and un-motivating!

sydsim
Wed, 15 Jan 2014 07:29:49 +0000

A cycle that I have seen before. Your mom isn’t supportive of your college goals (and therefore independence goals) because they will greatly change the dynamics in the house. If she doesn’t help you, then maybe you won’t go, ya know?

And even though it’s true that parents should want better for their children, it certainly doesn’t happen all the time. I have definitely seen parents who feel threatened when their children have different dreams for themselves (parents are like "oh, you think you’re better than I am?)
type of thinking. I’ve heard parents say things like “I didn’t do such and such… And I turned out fine”.

There can also be some jealousy there. She’s watching you go out into the world footloose and fancy free, while she’s stuck at home raising the younger ones. That can be depressing for someone if they never really got that chance.

Just some thoughts.