Music business?

Serious101
Tue, 31 Aug 2010 01:28:47 +0000

What does the girl herself wish to do without ANY constraints? The original question was assuming that she is constrained to go to college, constrained to not pursue any real career due to religious reasons, and therefore constrained to major in only certain areas at certain religious schools.

Yes, the mother has control over the trust fund (right?), but if the daughter’s desires differ from her mother’s…and she still follows her mother’s wishes, her entire life is going to be in big trouble, not just the future of her college and career. The daughter needs to take control of her own life right now regardless if that means losing the college trust fund, because the longer she waits to do that, the less of a life she is likely to have in the future.

My parents were extremely controlling over my entire life before college - as a result, I was a social recluse because I was not allowed to do or say anything independently outside of their supervision (and even now they still criticize me, though they no longer have control). My parents originally would only let me go to college if I allowed them to maintain this control (live at home, be driven to class, and then driven right back home after class). I had no identification, no money, and no ability to travel on my own, and no friends to help, so I had no ability to simply ignore them and go on to college. So I stood my ground and refused to go to college or get a job under these conditions. For one and a half years I stayed at home doing nothing until finally they realized they couldn’t control me anymore and gave up. Unless this girl actually wants in life the same thing her mother demands of her, if she doesn’t make her own stand in her own way, any hope for happiness in her life is doomed.