My alcohol went missing...

srgirl6
Mon, 10 Dec 2012 20:48:40 +0000

I live in a house with 3 other girls, all of whom are over 21 (as am I). We generally don’t share our booze and if we do, it’s agreed upon when we buy it.

I spent this past weekend at my parents’ house and left a half-full bottle of vodka and a half-full bottle of wine sitting on the counter (where it usually is among everyone else’s stuff). I know how full the vodka was because I had marked it with a dry erase marker and the mark was still there (I do it to keep track of my own drinking). I didn’t look at it last night but when I came out of my room this morning, I noticed that the bottle had moved about half a foot from where it usually sits and that there were two shot glasses sitting nearby. The bottle had at least two shots-worth missing. I then looked at the wine bottle, which now only has a little bit left.

Two of my roommates came home a few minutes later, and I asked them if someone had drank my alcohol over the weekend. They both pointed fingers at the third roommate, who wasn’t home and who they have said before they think might have an alcohol problem. They said she had stolen their food and alcohol last year (they all lived together last year, too). They also said that neither of them had been home on Saturday night and that one of them wasn’t home Friday, either. At that point I left for class and called my mom to ask for advice on how to handle it. I/we decided that it would be best to just mention it to the third roommate, mostly because I want all of them to know I noticed and care, considering the fact that I’m pretty broke and the whole reason there was even half a bottle of each there was because I haven’t been drinking much lately because I don’t have money to buy more.

So when I got home, I said something along the lines of, “Hey, I noticed some of my alcohol was gone. I think someone drank it this weekend. I don’t really care who right now but if it happens again, I’m going to be upset” to her. I said I wasn’t accusing her but she seemed to get kind of angry at me. I think she might still be mad.

I’m pretty sure I handled it right, but I guess I just want more opinions. Also, I’m just a little bit concerned that the other two are ganging up against her or me. Everyone in the house seems to like each other, but I did just move in this year and they might have history I don’t know about. I guess I just don’t want to pay too much attention to what the other two say about the third. Living here has been a bit uncomfortable because everyone kinda talks about everyone else. I try to stay out of it and am successful most of the time, but this time I had to say something because someone did drink my alcohol and that is the issue.

I did tell the third roommate that I had said something about it to the other two. I made it clear with all three that I wasn’t directly accusing anyone. Finally, I didn’t say this, but I don’t actually mind letting any of them drink my alcohol most of the time, I just want them to ask.

I’m mostly just venting, but I’m worried I didn’t handle things right. I just don’t want there to be conflict.