My dad wants me to apply elsewhere... help me!

thisgirlisaG
Tue, 02 Mar 2010 18:27:41 +0000

so, i did not read all of this, but i just wanted to add a little…

“My dad just keeps PUSHING the medical school thing.”

…do we have the same dad? 0_o lol. ever since i was about 6 years old [seriously], my dad has been pushing me towards becoming a doctor. for some reason, he has always had the, ‘u have to do this…what other options are there?..teacher? writer? no, L-O-L.’ attitude. plus, i think he feels bad because he didn’t become a doctor himself [chose to be an engineer, instead] & his mother is maybe a little disappointed in him because of that. the point is, it was REALLY hard growing up hearing ‘u have to be this, or i won’t pay for your education’, especially since my mother never really got involved or took a big interest in me. it really broke me down & i spent many nights miserable & in tears. if it wasn’t for my grandmother on my mom’s side telling me that my dad was acting irrationally & that i could be anything i wanted to be, i would have really gone crazy & been even angrier than i am. lately, my dad has loosened up a little bit because i think he has started to realize that-one day-i could really be gone from his life for good. but, seeing as though most of the damage is already done for me [every little thing was about control, for him], now just can’t wait to get to college & separate myself from both of my parents, because it’s gotten to the point where i really don’t want to have a relationship with either of them.

well, this post has been pretty much just about me so far, but here i’ll tie it back :] DO NOT push your kids, because one day they will be 18 & may never want to talk to u again. & how ‘shocking’ will it be for u, as parents, when u realize that-for the first time-the control lies in their hands? ;

p.s. i hope this relates at all to any of these stories. i really should have read more of this thread before ranting, loll.