My dad wants me to apply elsewhere... help me!

sandkmom
Tue, 02 Mar 2010 15:53:14 +0000

@R124687

Hey now. Let’s not disparage acting or actors! S is a Tisch applicant hoping for an acceptance and I can assure you that Acting at Tisch will be VERY academic. But I guess my S is truly one of the lucky ones as I’ll be paying for his education without any conditions re his course of study. And I have no worries about that. Yes, it’s my money but I don’t need to use it to control his life…I just want to give him the best start.

Re your niece, H is a non-practicing attorney and I’m a former paralegal and both of us can attest to the fact that working in a law firm can suck big time and is not for everyone. Don’t be so quick to judge other people’s life choices! As for her still not being happy, might I say you don’t “sound” so happy yourself.

I get that sometimes the teen sense of entitlement is frustrating and that seems to be where you are coming from but even “parents who know better” think differently.

@Alix2012

You didn’t come across as having that teen sense of entitlement I was referring to although I disagree that a BS in Biochemistry as compared with a BA in MadeUpFluff at Gallatin should make a difference.

@OP

Just wondering why you feel you have to apply ED? I get that Senior year will be a lot better with an early acceptance but you may want to keep your options open. And applying ED doesn’t guarantee acceptance either so you’ll have to be prepared to apply to other schools anyway.

I suggest that you visit the schools your father wants you to see and keep an open mind. Additionally, I suggest that you have a calm and mature conversation with your father and ask him to do the same for you. There is no need to pick your major or life’s work at this point. What you want is a school that has several majors that you are interested in because you might change your mind.

FYI, my S is a gung ho NYC kid himself. He loves everything about the city even spit on the sidewalks and the smell of the subway. EVERYTHING. Yes, we had a very odd conversation about this! But ultimately, he ended up applying to other schools as well. Every school had something going for it and he felt he could be happy attending. Not all of them were in the city. Some were totally urban, some not. Some were large universities, some were small specialized colleges. He has his favorites on his list and NYU is among them but what will happen still remains to be seen.

@ MAP

I congratulate you on having the courage to go after the life that you want and I wish you well in mending those fences with your parents. Parents often do and say really stupid things that we wish we could take back and sometimes it’s out of a fear that our children will make the same mistakes that we did. Terribly cliche I know but ultimately it’s out of love. I’m 43 and my parents still tell me what to do! Thankfully, I’m a big girl now and get to do what I want so I try to take a deep breath, remember where they are coming from and tell them thanks, I’ll have to think about that…then I go do what I want! :)