My dad wants me to apply elsewhere... help me!

milkandsugar
Tue, 02 Mar 2010 11:54:44 +0000

R124687,

I really dont agree with you and I don’t care if you care, its your life, but trying to have the upper hand with kids is counterproductive. I am more interested in my D having a fullfilled life and passion at what she does than me telling her what she should do for life. Yes we explored options throughout HS, she tailored her HS life to the various professions she might pursue, but at the end of the day SHE, not me, has to make the decision what is right for her. Maybe I’m lucky and taught her right. IDK.
My friend is now dealing with a daughter who was forced to do a course of study for a field her mother thought would be lucrative for her as a career. The daughter is a gifted, passionate writer and was denied the ability to pursue that. Now 2 years later, and money wasted, she is transfering to pursue that field, despite her mothers begs, pleas and ultimatums. All the while their relationship has been strained. is that worth it? not in my book.
It our job to guide our children, not micrormanage them into adulthood.