My dad wants me to apply elsewhere... help me!

R124687
Tue, 02 Mar 2010 13:53:44 +0000

Alix…I have no gripe with OP. I’m saying YOUR attitude (tell them you’re a Junior and you can decide)…is the demanding/tantrum act.

My OWN situation is actually NOTHING like this at all. My daughter has her choice of several colleges. One is pretty much free. I do not care what she studies at that school. I have also seen what happens when one does what they don’t want to do. AND, I’ve seen the opposite. My niece is a Columbia law graduate - HER choice. Parents paid a quarter of a million dollars. She was an attorney for 1 year. Then an actress, now works in … I don’t know what to even call it. Barely making a living, and still not happy.

My own daughter WILL decide for herself. But, being dirt poor all my life and not being lucky enough to have any parents, let alone parents who could pay for college DOES qualify me to have as much input as your “ramble”. Op is lucky. My daughter is lucky. They will have educations of some sort, where many don’t. But it will take my blessings if you want my check. Example…if my daughter wanted to study acting…I’d pay for her education…PROVIDED she add something academic as a minor. If that’s too much for a child like you to accept, then so be it. I’m not asking for anyone’s approval.

I’m just saying that ultimatums, and declaring one’s maturity/independence/rights…at age 17…are not normally going to get much sympathy from parents who know better. You DO have “rights” at age 18. And that includes getting yourself an education. But you do not have the “right” in “insist” on having everything exactly as you want it, just because you want it, and having it paid for by someone else.

Just sayin’…