My daughter hates everyone

Eightisgreat
Sat, 18 Aug 2012 20:40:07 +0000

I should clarify. In her volunteer work, she gets along fine. And she does a lot of volunteer work. They love her. She volunteers in more than one place. She also plays in the city orchestra and has for years. Again, gets along fine.

On the switching of schools, she was seriously bullied in the first school. The whole reason we moved here was for that school. She had made friends. We had to pull her out because we did not feel she was safe. It was a boy who was stalking her and threatening her. Where she went after that was a private home study program. She did go in to that school 1-2 times a week. Everyone there loved her and she seemed fine. She did get a little overly touchy, I thought, over 1 problem marked wrong that should not have been marked wrong on a final. Then, because we felt she could not return to the local public school where that boy was, because we did not feel it was safe. His friends even tried to come to our house and approach our younger children to say nasty things (sexual) about our daughter. We had to call the police. But apparently, when it is a 5 yr old’s word against a teenager, they claim there is nothing they can do. They told the teen and his friends to stay away from our property. I have not seen them back since.

At the charter school, she hated everyone. I thought things were fine. There was no bullying. There was one boy who kept acting like a jerk, but the administration got on his case and he stopped. So no real issues. But she was very upset and dramatic about every little thing there. She went to a summer program that was well known and loved by everyone. She hated everyone. The charter school dropped some programs she was in, (they pretty much started dropping AP classes and dropped down to 1 foreign language which was not the one she was taking and stopped being a STEM academy, essentually, they shut down the portion she was in) so she had to move on. And based on the past bullying, the local schools gave her an in-district transfer to a different school. And she had friends at that first school and was very upset she had to leave for her safety. We all felt that the stalker should have had to leave, not her. But HER life had to be uprooted and changed. And he got away with it.

We have no problems with her activities outside of school and she is in a few. She has a sport, the music, and the volunteer work. She also babysits. She volunteers at multiple places. Currently, she is volunteering at 2 places regularly but then gets called to do occasional other things here and there. She loves doing that stuff and gets along with everyone there too.

So…there was no change of schools just because she complained. SHe would have had to have left the middle school at the end of the year anyway to go to high school. But we left the middle school because of the stalker. And the stalker was going on to the high school, so we picked a charter school instead. And then the charter school dropped the stem program so she had to go back to the regular high school to continue her course. That is it. I know it sounds like a lot though.