My daughter hates everyone

romanigypsyeyes
Sat, 18 Aug 2012 16:56:38 +0000

Being bullied puts a huge chip on your shoulder. I was relentlessly bullied in elementary and middle school for my sexuality. To the point that kids were physically abusive to me towards the end. That is a HUGE weight and it’s REALLY hard to recover and know who to trust after that. It’s easier just to hate everyone and when you send off those vibes, people give it back.

I’m going to echo the other people who say therapy. I am also going to 2nd boysx3’s idea that she might not like herself. It’s so easy to externalize self-dislike. You need to really like yourself and know that there is a safe zone out there before you can really recover from bullying.

This is what really sticks out to me:

She claims that that teacher is going to hunt her down at school, pull her from her class, and scream at her in front of everyone over her AP exam score



That is a good reason to seek help for her. Do you know if she is willing to talk to someone about this? It can be hard for therapy to work if you don’t want to be there.

Good luck to you and your D.

ETA: On another thread you mentioned that you had a D that was doing volunteer work for something. Is this the same D? If so, does she get along with people there? If so, that could be a “safe place” for her and she might consider getting more involved in that if she refuses to do therapy.