My friend is nuts!

ThePrincessBride
Fri, 26 Feb 2010 09:48:27 +0000

Hey Manhattan,

This is one of those “I have a friend…” situations where you are really talking about yourself, is it? Just checking.



Absolutely NOT. I would never center my life around my SO. I’ve already made plans to study abroad and go to grad school and to not have children before 25. He’s not going to change that (though he seems to be in a rush to have kids asap). I also didn’t meet my bf until a couple months into college, so I didn’t follow anyone anywhere. She, on the other hand, followed her bf to college and seems like she’ll follow him OUT (they’re high school sweethearts).

And I agree with everyone. This is sheer stupidity on her part AND her bf’s. I don’t get it. They both have free rides, and it won’t be long before they lose it if they don’t get their act together. If only I could talk some sense into her.

NYsmile,

It’s a shame when a student like this gets a free ride while others with more ambition, common sense, maturity, and academic success (better than her 2.5 college gpa) struggle financially to attend.



She’s below a 2.5 (barely above a 2.0 which is considered good academic standing). She and her bf are also young (both turned 18 just recently). I don’t get it. I would have killed to have a full ride but I wasn’t “poor enough” to get one! She and her bf are lucky.

Icanread,

I get really frustrated with people who make big decision based on their SOs, especially as teenagers. You should sit down with her and really lay it out there about the reasons why she shouldn’t base her life on what her bf is doing. She’ll probably get angry with you, but wth, as a friend you should do it or else she’ll transfer out and you won’t see her again anyway. Does she plan on majoring in engineering at another school? Engineering is tough everywhere, so that won’t change. Or is she gonna be a mechanic as well? It’s a good, high paying job NGL but honestly…Tell her the best decision is to stay on at her current school, switch majors, and get good grades. It’s only freshman year; she has time to step up her game.



No, she plans on going to school. But still. If she leaves, because of her low gpa, she probably won’t get a full-ride elsewhere if she transfers. All the problems she *****es about are easily fixable. All she has to do is switch majors and ask for a different roommate/dorm space next year and that solves 75% of her problems.

I told her that she should switch majors. If you can’t handle first-year engineering classes, chances are you won’t be able to handle the upper-level courses. With a 2.2, I don’t think that’s going to cut it.