My Roommate Has Social Issues

austinmshauri
Tue, 05 Sep 2017 11:17:26 +0000

In one of your other threads you said you had a thread about partying and drinking that was somehow inappropriate and was removed by the mods. You seem overly concerned that freshman find friends right away and seem to think that partying – and drinking – are the route they need to take to do that. That worries me.

I think you need to step back. Live your own life and let other students find their own way. You’re not a counselor, so you’re not qualified to determine whether or not your roommate has social issues or decide if his learning disorder is the cause of any behavior you notice, and you shouldn’t be setting goals for him or be monitoring his “progress.”

It disturbs me that you presented him as a stranger in your first post when, in reality, your families know each other. It also concerns me that you believe your attempts to change him show your “dedication” to helping people, and that anyone who disagrees with you about it isn’t a nice person. Other people’s lives aren’t projects for your resume. I think you might benefit from seeing a counselor to explore your need to involve yourself in other people’s lives like that. Mention the pattern you spoke about upthread – that you do things to try to help others and people invariably take it the wrong way. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to help people, but there are limits and I think you need help learning where those boundaries are.