My Son has No Friends!

Winterset
Thu, 13 Nov 2008 11:53:06 +0000

D’yer Maker good advice (the phone call). My son is at the same school as Annabelle’s and went through identical problems the first year. For him it took ALL YEAR and finally when we gave in the following summer, after endless endless endless discussions, and agreed he could withdraw, he changed his mind! He stayed. He is in his third year, loves it and is glad he stayed. I suspect that when he finally had control, deliberated on the choices, life was not as bad as he thought.

BUT, he swore he would never change his mind, it was a terrible mistake, we were destroying his life… I wanted to give in. We visited, he stayed in our hotel room, we brought him home, sent cookies, and talked until we could no longer talk. My wife wanted to stand firm, and we both fought over what to do. But the school is a truly amazing place, with limitless opportunities, and in hindsight my wife was right. My son, when he did change his mind, claimed it was simply “Stockholm Syndrome”. The advisors, other parents and the school psychologist can also help in a situation like this.