Need Advice from Parents on Roommate

fumafoo101
Sun, 30 Oct 2011 21:34:00 +0000

I posted this in the college life section, but I feel like parents would have some sound advice as well. My parents never lived on a campus, and they really don’t know what to say.

This all started about two weeks ago when I asked my roommate if it was ok for me to take my loft down. I asked to be nice, and to let her know she would need to move her stuff. I took it down for medical reasons because I take a sleeping pill and when I get up in the morning I’m not 100% so I didn’t feel comfortable going up and down. One morning I didn’t even remember how I got down. She was upset, and didn’t speak to me for the night because she had wanted to switch our room so there would be a space for friends to come over. I honestly don’t really have a ton of friends here because I’m transferring. She threw a fit, and complained to her mother and boyfriend. Probably friends to at dinner because everyone needs someone to vent too. lol

I moved my stuff early from her side since we didn’t have sides to begin with we both shared the room equally. I believe she had more space though. Friday I moved everything to how I would like it, and my loft was gone. I came back tonight to see that the tv cord is in front of my dresser so I couldn’t open, and I would trip over. Also she is using all my side’s outlets. We have yet to discuss that issue.

Anyway I got a message in the afternoon asking when I’d be back. I replied and I told her someone would be coming up with to help bring stuff up, and take stuff home. I also got bed raiser(risers) because I thought I might use them since it would only go up 1/2 in. She thought I was rearranging my room, and I replied no I like how it is. I got a message back saying we would talk about it when I got back. (I got frustrated when I saw that)

As soon as my family member left she asks me to move my dresser because she and her friends couldn’t sit comfortably on her bed to watch it. It’s my tv, and I don’t watch it. I really wanted it to go home, but my mom advised me not to because it would make her angrier. I can’t even watch as it is now because it is position to face her bed. I honestly do not want to move it because it is hiding the cord now so I don’t trip, and can get in to my dresser plus I like how my side is set up. I said you know I left that folding chair (lawn type that is used at sporting events) so that you could have someone use that. She didn’t like that and said she still wouldn’t be able to lay in her bed and watch tv at night. Than she said well your never here on the weekend (I’m not because of her, I go to family members houses) I’m frustrated, and so is she. I don’t feel like giving in to her because I’ve already cooperated a lot and I let her have her way most of the time. I don’t like confrontation. I feel like I need to hold my foot down on this issue because if I don’t she will continue to walk over me. Should I cave in? I really just want her to start respecting me. I feel like she doesn’t and I feel she is acting very spoiled on every issue. It is like she thinks it’s her room, and she can dictate what I do and what I don’t.

Any advice is welcomed. I just needed to vent that out. I also don’t feel comfortable talking to a CA, or my RHD (I heard she doesn’t really help at all with these issues) because of past experience in school talking to adults about classmates.