Need Advice-Is this appropriate?

mantori.suzuki
Thu, 24 Sep 2009 01:56:53 +0000

Would it be inappropriate for her to ask this professor if he could put in a good word for her with Admissions? She will see him in 2 weeks and would ask him in person.



It would not be inappropriate to ask, but she should *not *ask in person.

Why? Because if the answer is no, it will be very awkward.

Instead, the request should be in writing, along with an “out” for the professor. I would phrase it like this: “If you are able to do so, I would be very grateful for a recommendation. If this is not possible, I certainly understand. In either case, I have enjoyed meeting you, thank you for your consideration, etc.”

The written note should state the request and then go to great lengths to make clear that her gratitude is in no way dependent upon it. It should also be phrased carefully so as not to ask for a confirmation. You will never know what the real outcome was, and that’s as it should be.