Need advice on college choice, $$, etc.

planner03
Sun, 06 Mar 2016 13:19:30 +0000

How long is OP going to continue to wait to tell S that they are not paying for him to go to Princeton or any of the other full pay schools that he is still waiting to hear from?

The parents have known since mid December about Princeton. The COA is in black and white at the bottom of the acceptance letter if that information had previously escaped them. Okay, they told him they would pay for anything, they helped him put together his application list based on that, and now they think have changed their minds. That’s their choice-but they need to MAKE the choice.

Posters are very quick to judge 17 year olds about their application strategies but it is the adults that dropped the ball here. Their S could have put together a list of private schools that offered merit aid and had some options other than the CA state schools.

And now the parents are stringing him along in March rather than allowing him to make a choice and adjust to it? Time to sit down with their S rather than looking for affirmation from a group of strangers.

Also, based on this post in December parents were not encouraging S to look beyond Princeton:

"DS got his tshirt but is not going to wear it until he decides on Princeton for sure. But it is really looking likely–since being accepted, his motivation to apply anywhere else has dropped like a rock!’