Need advice on college choice, $$, etc.

3girls3cats
Sun, 06 Mar 2016 15:36:43 +0000

Thermclos said:

Trust is a delicate thing. It takes little effort to destroy it.

** That’s the issue. ** It has nothing to do with the value of money, or entitlement, or the worth of a particular school. It has everything to do with research, communication, promises, and a parent-child relationship.

SlackermomMD said:

My advice would be to own the mistake, apologize to the child and accept the anger, frustration and resentment if that is the immediate outcome. Work to regain the child’s trust.

** And there’s the advice. ** That’s the best advice anyone can give if the parent has decided, at this point, not to pay for the expensive private school.

Well, that and look very carefully at the available options to make sure they are good ones for this particular kid. The UCs are not without their issues and they are not for everyone. If for any reason, they are not the right place for this kid, the other piece of advice I’d offer would be to have the boy take a gap year and reapply next year to a different slate of schools with all the facts and constraints in hand. Or pay for Princeton this year.