Need advice on college choice, $$, etc.

mom2engkids
Sun, 06 Mar 2016 13:33:30 +0000

I am stunned…I think OP and the son are surprised by the admit as most kids would be, I am quite certain since even the smartest kids aren’t getting in. Son has not visited so this is not a ‘life-long dream’ situation. It is a brand name. You guys are assuming way too much as am I.

Quite frankly, I am appalled at the harsh judgement and terrible treatment of the OP! They asked for advice - not snotty, critical, self-serving jabs at their choices. It used to be that parents supported each other even when they weren’t always in the right. Please some of you look up the definition of advice.

If you are an Ivy graduate who has paid over 200k for that degree, you have a reason to judge… And only YOU! Those of you who we’re blessed enough to attain one when college costs weren’t more than the GDP of multiple small countries do not. And the other folks throwing their negative weight around who have absolutely no idea of the facts other than the brief tidbit here need to sit down and shut up! It is probably that the OP is upset/confused and needs your support!

These are people who have already sacrificed…old cars, small house…it’s not as if they are Vanderbilts holding out on the son. We have to stop treating each other so badly for the parenting choices we make.

This is very much an issue of perception… If 500k is chump change to you, then please don’t be the one whose kid is getting tons of FA.

I told my son he could have a new bike for Christmas, but he actually wanted the $1500 mountain bike like his friend. LOL… he wias just fine riding the mean streets of our neighborhood with the $200 bike. He agreed once he got it and I told him that that was money we could use on his car eventually. Now he doesn’t even ride it that much.

No doubt an Ivy degree is sweet, but being practical is also a good choice, so the son can go to Med school, law school, etc. on the other hand, they decide to go for it, they are doing it for the right reasons.