Need unbiased opinion

lookingforward
Mon, 13 Aug 2018 16:53:06 +0000

Lol, milee. My MIL was a deeply polite southerner and almost never asked a question directly. She would say, “Thank you, but it seems like a lot of trouble for you.” A declaration, not a hint she wanted an encouraging response. Even more likely she’d add, “Maybe we can go sometime with you.” That leaves it open, she appreciated the offer, but knows there are two sides.

If there were hesitation on the other person’s side, they wouldn’t automatically say, “Oh, no inconvenience.”

I suspect the husband very much wants to be generous and there are plenty of reasons why the wife isn’t into it.

Btw, we were once offered a family friend’s place. We’d spent decades hearing how great it was and MIL had been. But it was difficult. I ended up cleaning more than any mess we made, plus ensuring everything was in the exact places as we found it. I worried what I cooked on the last night would leave lingering smells.