Need unbiased opinion

Consolation
Mon, 13 Aug 2018 16:18:57 +0000

I’m in the no way in hedoublehockeysticks camp. I would feel SO uncomfortable.

Sherpa, I think that your communication advice is generally sound, but not in this case. If the wife of the other couple wanted to support the invitation, she would have joined in issuing it directly or through her husband. What they got instead was the husband basically relating how his wife didn’t want to lend it to people and he worked on her for a year to accede to this. Since the wives aren’t in touch, for the OP to approach the other woman with questions about her feelings on the subject would be very intrusive, IMHO.

Perhaps after the OP’s H tells his friend that they just don’t feel comfortable knowing that the wife would rather not lend the place, the wife will either extend the invitation herself or tell her husband to reassure them. In that case, I would possibly go. Otherwise, no way.