New roommate help

NovaLynnx
Mon, 02 Jan 2012 19:49:46 +0000

First, don’t assume - maybe she’s only just created her facebook, or doesn’t use it much, or it’s an old account. Second, don’t assume that your old roommate’s unhappiness was due to you at all. If she had personal problems, that’s enough to make her unhappy. Other people can’t make someone happy, they have to work on it themselves.

You’re not “obligated” to help your roommate adjust, but it would be a good gesture to help build the relationship if you invite her along to lunch or activities with your group of friends. I have always commuted, however, if I had a roommate I would probably friend request them on facebook and at least chat with them a bit before moving in to see what they’re like, and maybe work out a few “rules” that roommates always seem to be disagreeing over.

Don’t stress over not making your old roommate happy. There’s enough going on at the start of the semester without worrying about that on top of it. Just be friendly and make some effort, and hopefully she’ll do the same.