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Simba1994
Mon, 30 Sep 2013 20:23:27 +0000

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Hi everyone. Sorry that I haven’t been to this thread in quite a while. I went home this weekend for my sister’s birthday and so we ended up waiting till Monday (just now we finished) to have an adult talk between me and my mother and father. I think we have a pretty good understanding of each other now. As expected my mother did get emotional towards the end, and I felt a little bad, but I assured her that I did not mean to hurt her feelings, but that I just wanted to be 100% honest. The gist of it was (from her side) was that she explained that she can not go to sleep at night knowing that I’m not at my apartment yet, and that this was all new to her (as I was the only one to leave home for college) and that it’s not easy for her to accept these things that I want to do, but at least she knows now that she’s going to have to. My father was a bit more understanding and easy going but he explained that he wants me to be responsible in the sense of knowing my limits; if I know that I’ve been out already too many days in a row then the next time everyone’s having a get together I would just say no I can’t go. I guess both of them are going to have more confidence in the way they raised me now, as I already explained to them that I know everything they taught me (knowing how to escape situations/people I feel uncomfortable around, taking care of myself and my car, choose my friends, studying hard, etc.)
They basically explained that the number 1 thing they want from me is honesty (so, still wanting to know the 5 W’s, which is what I’ve been doing all along). I then told them straight out that that’s not a problem, but ONLY if they don’t have a problem with me doing whatever it is I’m doing (IE calling me in the middle of the event demanding I go back to my apartment) I explained to them that the latest I’d probably be out was 1:30am, and that it wouldn’t be all the time either (which it wouldn’t since my schoolwork has priority), and it seems that they were okay with it.

So, all in all, it seems that I’m still going to have relatively constant communication with them, but I suppose that it’s a small price to pay for a bit more breathing room.

Once again, to everyone, thank you all so much for helping me out. I can not thank you enough. Seriously. :)