No idea.

Simba1994
Tue, 01 Oct 2013 19:30:29 +0000

I came back to this thread to re-read all the posts again (including the ones that replied before I came back Monday after the conversation we had), and I still think I’m definitely going to take some of the advice here because it’s very good and helpful. But the good news is that it seems my mother has got the message, as I was the one to send her a simple “I’m alive and at school love ya” text this morning and she was fine with that; no need for a call. She hasn’t called or texted me either since this morning. I’m thinking that this means that she got the message and is gradually pulling away from me, leaving me to contact her occasionally rather than the opposite frequently.

@TranquilMind: Thank you. Like I said I love my parents, I always will. Even if they are a bit extreme. I know that at the end of the day (though it’s very cliche) it’s just because they love me, which I can fully understand. I love them too and that’s why I was so open and honest with them. But I think it’d be better for both of us if I kept some things to ourselves and be a bit more vague with my plans, but still honest, as suggested several times in this thread.

@mom2collegekids: Thank you very much for all your responses, you have definitely helped me a great deal. I think you are right, but at least they understand the fundamental principal I tried to get across is that I need my breathing room and space in order to have the true experience of being independent while I’m away at college. I think you are right that I can potentially set myself up for too much criticism if I give too much info, and you def have a point where you mentioned that if my grades slip even slightly that they will right away blame “too much hanging out” and try to have excess control again. I think for this reason I am going to be a bit more vague (but still honest) with them because I truly think that that’d be the best thing to do.

PS: If anyone else has any kind of advice, please don’t hesitate to post it. Even though I truthfully probably won’t be replying much anymore since we already had the conversation and it’s just a matter of putting it into practice now (as well as me having quite a few tests coming up in this coming week!), I will still be reading this thread in its entirety from time to time just to remember all the great advice I’ve been given. I bookmarked this. I got so much off my chest by doing this and knowing that there are people out there willing to help. So for that, I thank you all once again. :]