No idea.

mom2collegekids
Wed, 25 Sep 2013 16:52:07 +0000

*My dad is coming to visit me tomorrow and says he wants to have an “adult-adult” conversation with me… I guess I have to have some points to discuss with him. You’ve all told me multiple ways to give them the message, hopefully it works. *

This sort of concerns me. Is the dad coming as some kind of messenger from the mom, laying down more rules (or insisting on the existing ones)?

The student needs to “feel the dad out” right away.

If it’s obvious that the dad is just the mom’s mouthpiece, then I think the student needs to give him the same message: “I’m very busy with school, studying and homework take a lot of time. I don’t have time for socializing, and I’m keeping my nose clean and getting good grades.”

If the dad is just the mom’s mouthpiece, and the student tries to sway the dad, then not only will that not likely work, but the dad will go home, relay the message to mom, and then the mom will not accept the “I’m busy” excuse. She’ll know he’s avoiding her.

Student, your dad may not know if your mom is mentally ill. Seriously. He may just think that she’s a loving/protective mom.