No idea.

mom2collegekids
Wed, 25 Sep 2013 01:23:00 +0000

*You have gotten a lot of good advice from this thread. I will add a few more points. I would call your mom and tell her that you feel that your conversations have been shortchanged because she calls at times when you don’t have enough time to talk. Tell her you are going to put some time on your calendar at say 5:00 or whatever time works for both of you where you can sit down and enjoy a cup of coffee and have a nice conversation about your day. Then when you call focus on her for just that 15 minutes. Tell her about your day - sharing on a need to know basis - and ask her about her day and what is happening. Then at the end of the call, set the time for the next day. If she calls you during the day just text back - cant talk now - we will talk at 5:00. *

I think having a set time is fine, but I wouldn’t set it for 5pm unless I had a class or some other firm committment happening around 5:30 so that I could cleanly get off the phone. If the mom knows that the student has no firm commitments after 5pm other than homework, she might not respect the idea of a limited time phone call.

I agree with the earlier poster who said that the student doesn’t have to listen to all the mom’s voice mails. Voice mails from a mom like this are probably full of lectures and diatribes. Delete is your friend.