Non Custodial Parent Profile_Vent

Flutemom
Tue, 21 Oct 2008 07:37:22 +0000

We are in a tough place. My daughter is applying to 7 schools. All but one school are Profile schools and require the Non Custodial Parent Profile. This is something that we cannot provide. Her father gave me money for an abortion 17 years ago and has never looked back. I have recieved child support but it has been garnished. I have no clue as to where he lives or works. He has never seen my daughter.

One school is a non-profile school, one school waived the Non Custodial Parent Profile with just an email from me. All of the others want a letter from a professional ie, a high school counselor,clergy, or Dr. They will not accept a letter from a relative.

I have never had reason to share information about our situation with anyone outside of friends and family. I never had reason to go to our pastor,Dr. or school counselor and explain that my daughters father has never seen her.

She does have one school that does not require the profile, it is her safety. The school that waived it is a reach for everyone

I guess it just seems wrong to expect that people would be able to provide this letter from a professional. I understand that some people lie and cheat and there is a reason for the form. But to expect that people would have told some professional about the situation is not realistic at all.

If you have any ideas for us that would be great. I have emailed the school counselor and explained the situation, and asked if she had ever run into a situation like this.