Not Enjoying College

Alexmer
Sun, 01 Mar 2015 01:00:08 +0000

I don’t think transferring is the solution (at least not yet). What you’re going through doesn’t seem to be specific to any one college. Also, in terms of grad school in the sciences what’ll matter are your grades, GRE scores, research experience, and LOR. Your undergraduate school only matters as much as it affects those.

I’m getting the sense that you grew up with your friends from your hometown which made it comfortable and easy. You didn’t have to actively pursue new friends so this is uncharted territory. It’s awesome that you’ve been trying out clubs and hanging out with people on the floor. Just remember that you can’t expect to already have anywhere near the sort of connection you had with your high school friends. That’ll take time. The ones you mesh best with will stay, others will leave, and new ones will come. Eventually you’ll have a friend group that may last a lifetime. Have you talked to any of them about living together next year?

What worked best for me was doing something more involved than a club like volunteer work or other student organizations or research. You end up being around like minded people for >10 hours per week, which forms closer relationships while keeping you busy and productive. Have you considered joining a sorority? Not all of them are party centric like you see in movies. Some are academic based or volunteer based, which may suit you better.