off-campus finances among roommate -- suggestions?

Singersmom07
Fri, 15 May 2009 07:58:11 +0000

You need to let them work it out and stay out of it. They are old enough to manage. The only thing that the adults should be involved with is the question re rent. DD and her apartment mates divided as they went along. Mostly had their own food shelves for different diets and schedules but ate together sometimes and shared when they did. They selected each other because of similar sleeping and cleanliness issues so they had that down more or less. DD did have to complain a couple of times when dishes stacked up. Had a how to load the dishwasher session :). But they worked it out.

Adult issues: One Mom would not pay the summer rent when they decided to stay for another year. Adults had to step in and say that girl had to move then. Summer sublet was found, but that mom would not share the costs of even the one month gap. That Mom even subtracted the deposit form the last rent leaving everyone else to cover it that amount of the rent. All rent issues need to be discussed up front with the adults, too. It caused a huge amount of stress and bad feelings. The D is so sweet and was so embarrassed by Mom.