Ok, dumb questions about guys

churchmusicmom
Sun, 02 Apr 2006 08:59:48 +0000

Calmom: My daughter and I were offered the VERY strong and unsolicited advice/opinion from a Columbia English prof while visiting Columbia with a friend who had been accepted and was trying to decide where to attend (my D had already accepted to Barnard and was beyond thrilled). After this man (I do NOT recall his name) had finished his no-nonsense talk with my D’s friend, which we could not help but overhear, we were sort of afraid he would come out and ask her about her plans and talk “down” to her about her choice of school (as he had pretty much talked down all of her friend’s other college choices). He did, indeed come out and ask her about her plans for college and when she told him she already was attending Barnard, he proceded to tell us that Barnard was Columbias “Best kept secret” and that, when he was a student, he tried to take as many classes as he could there. He went on to explain that the professors there know your name and can give you more individual attention due to the (usually) smaller class size. He went on to say that, in his Columbia classes, there is NOT distinction in student “performance” between Barnard and CC students…in short, he spoke in very glowing terms of Barnard and Barnard women and characterised Barnard as an academic asseet to Columbia and its students.

As for the dorm situation, male visitors are certainly allowed. Parents are told, in no uncertain terms, that at orientation! Your d’s roomate situation next year will help determine whether or not she can have “overnight” male visitors, though. My D, for example, would love to have her brother come and stay, or there are some guy friends that would like to have been able to come and visit her and have a “free” place to crash on the floor! Howver, her roomie is Orthodox and, out of respect my D and the third girl (they share a tripple suite with the Orthodox Jewish girl) do not have male visitors in their room once they are dressed for bed…She has LOVED her roomates, though. All part of learning to get to know new people…and she has made friends for life!!!

Hope that helps, and best to you and your daughter…