Old Fashioned In-Laws

oregon101
Thu, 12 Apr 2018 05:01:03 +0000

My issue with my MIL is that she asked many many questions without ever offering any information as to her
own opinion.
I drove her to the airport and we had gone just two miles and she had asked 27 questions–no kidding–
I was counting as I found it exhausting and needed amusement. It was impossible to stop her or to get the
focus on her. Those who did not care thought she was just interested in people. I thought she was insensitive
and unobservant and self-serving. H only saw my point the last few years of her life.
MIL “I see you are wearing blue, do you like blue”
MIL “Do you wear blue often”
MIL “Do you have a lot of blue shirts?”
MIL " did you wear blue often as a child"
X’s 27
The last visit I just did not talk to her basically at all.
Of course the issue is frequently between the S or D and their parent.
H just could not bring himself to discuss this with his mom. His initial focus was that he did not
want her dislike me (vs me disliking her). I was just not comfortable with her at all so did not speak up
but shut down. In the end we all lost.