Orientation - Parents Still in 'competitive' mode

mattmom
Thu, 27 Jul 2006 09:51:24 +0000

I thnk the best approach is to try to ignore it and keep going with your own more positive approach, which sounds just right; once you settle on a school you are supposed to be happy with it and start identifying with it, which seems to have happened in your household. Possibly by move-in time the other kids and their parents will have adjusted their attitudes appropriately and start to think of themselves as part of a new community. (It is very late to stil be holding out waitlist hopes.) I haven’t experienced the situation you describe and am sorry to hear about it–neither of my children’s schools had orientations prior to the orientation that accompanied move-in-time, and at those orientations everyone was delighted to be where they were (or certainly putting up a very good front) and becoming part of the college community. Hopefully that will be the case next time you are at the college.