Ovearbearing mom

aube88
Wed, 27 Jun 2007 19:33:17 +0000

It’s the summer before Im leaving for college. I had wanted to go to a college 3-6 hours away, but in the end I will only be an hour and a half from home. Even so, my mom is freaking out, and really anxious that I’m “leaving.” She talks about it all the time… and she tries to make me promise her to call her every day, and/or agree to meet up with her every week. Furthermore, when I talk about doing a school year abroad (which Ive always wanted to do ) or the fact that someday I’d love to live in Cali or Europe , she gets really upset and acts like this is a personal insult to her and I don’t love her.

ITS DRIVING ME INSANE and at this point I just feel caged, and wished I had chosen a school farther away. I love my parents, but she needs to back off. I want to go to college and I DONT want to necessarily be bound to see my parents every week or talk to them every day, or i would be commuting or going to my state school (…both of which she tried to convince me to do). I have told her this but she just gets upset and then acts in the same manner. Furthermore, I do NOT think it is ok for her to discourage me from doing a school year abroad or moving away for the sole reason that I will see her less. I could understand her preferring me to stay nearby, but it seems controlling to strongly discourage me from following a goal like becoming fluent in another language and learning about another culture for this reason. She also really strongly influenced me to go to a nearby school, and it’s not like I can inore her advice since she’s always around but its really getting on my nerves.

Has anyone else had this problem? What’s a girl to do?!