Ovearbearing mom

AUlostchick
Wed, 27 Jun 2007 22:32:58 +0000

My mom was the exact same way and didn’t lighten up until partly into my sophomore year (although part of that probably had to do with me starting college early and only being 17 my freshman yr). She wanted me to live at home and go to community college even though I got a full ride from my university. Pfft, I squashed that idea quick. But my mom was definitely one of “those” moms: she would call multiple times a day, leave me voicemails like “Baby where are you? what are you doing? call me back when you get this” if I didn’t answer, wanted me to come home every weekend since I was like 1/2 hour away (and I did for a while to please her, but once I decided to stay on campus a few weeks in a row she got mad at me and yelled). Etc etc. One day I had my phone turned on silent still from going to a play the night before, and she called about 10 times and obviously, it was on silent so I didn’t hear it. Her voice mails got steadily scarier, and when I actually did pick up she screamed at me WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU?! and started b-tching me out and saying, “What was I supposed to tell the police if I couldn’t find you? I don’t know who your friends are, or anything. For all I knew, you could’ve ran off to Honduras with Carlos!” (Carlos=my ex-boyfriend who I had only just met at the time, and barely knew) It should not be surprising to note that the night this happened was the first night I ever got drunk, lol.

She didn’t really let up much until I was finally like, “Look. I have nothing to talk to you about right now, or an hour from now, and didn’t the last time you called 2 hours ago. I don’t like talking about nothing on the phone, it’s a waste of my time. If something actually important happens, I will call you and you can call me. No, ‘something actually important’ doesn’t mean ‘there’s a tornado watch over the county now’, I know that I watch the news.” She got mad for a couple days and didn’t call but then she got over it, and now we talk on average every other day. Sometimes a few days in a row, but not often.

Moms are just like that sometimes, most often it gets better, especially when they realize, “well, they made it through the first year away without dying or getting arrested”. Have a talk with her now or right before you leave so you don’t have to deal with it all first year like I did. Just be like, “Mom I love you, and I know you’re having a hard time dealing with me leaving, since I’m your baby and all, but I am going to be fine. I will make a promise to call you every day if you promise to keep everything you have to say to that one call. If you forgot something after you hung up, tell me the next day. Also, I promise I will come home once a month and on holidays, but I want to stay and experience college some too. Also, gas is really high and it takes alot to go home all the time.” Hopefully that will ease her mind some.