Overbearing Grandma - Need Advice

naueth
Wed, 21 Aug 2013 11:07:23 +0000

I agree with intparent. I know it sounds harsh and maybe selfish, but who’s well-being and success is more important here, yours or your grandmother’s? This constant badgering and insult slewing is not good for your mental or physical health and can eventually lead YOU to be suicidal. Believe me I know, my mother is exactly the same way, stuck in her own vendetta, pushing her beliefs on me and insulting and sometimes erratically striking if I didn’t agree. This kind of stress lead me to migraines and panic attacks. And one day I finally decided I would cut off my relations with her when I realized she didn’t care about me enough to let go of those ideas and meet me halfway when I tolerated her crap constantly. I ignored and didn’t talk to her at all to avoid arguments for about a month at first. Then my family eventually made her leave our family home because she was making everyone unhappy; she didn’t contribute financially and she just stressed everyone out. Everyone else ignored and avoided her long before I did so I was also concerned about that, being her last hope and all. But I decided I can’t kill myself for her and I won’t. And honestly it was one of the best decisions of my life. It was an extremely toxic relationship.

So think and see what sacrifices your willing to make for her. Are you willing to throw your whole being away for her ideas or not? Compromising your health for hers? Ask this seriously and if there is a hint of doubt then cut it off cleanly. Especially if she doesn’t contribute to your life in any positive way.