Overbearing Grandma - Need Advice

JodyDG
Wed, 21 Aug 2013 08:25:21 +0000

Well, I do wish there was a way to patch things up, but I suppose if she can’t stand herself how can she expect someone else to. She definitely needs some self-development and stability. She has had a lot of mental health issues and clearly still hasn’t overcome them yet.

She does sort of have financial weight over me (the $95 application fee, which will be paid back). The reason I haven’t left is because she is suicidal, and I do love her, she is my grandma. She is really messed up and it isn’t her fault she’s this damaged. Dad said too, that it’s time I took charge, and for now, ignore what she has to say because she doesn’t even know what she’s doing. He said that he just ignored her opinions after college and since then worked his way up from a job that she said would ruin his life, to be one of the most important staff members in his company.

I suppose I’m just nervous to follow this advice of standing up and ignoring someone. I was always raised being told to mind those who were older, respect them, and do as they told me; yet with her they say to do the exact opposite (except for respect her, I still will do that but in a way that she doesn’t feel entitled to make decisions for me).

I suppose it is time to take charge, and write out my story before someone else does it for me. Time to be an amoeba - awesome analogy by the way.