Overbearing Grandma - Need Advice

maniacthw
Wed, 21 Aug 2013 08:47:54 +0000

When a relationship has become damaging to you, and it affects your health, it’s time to leave it. I don’t understand why people push this “love your family” agenda. There are times where you have to leave them. They’re not always good for you. With that said, you have three choices:

1) You can ignore the problem. This is good when it’s a small problem and one that doesn’t harm you. A minor annoyance (god! Why does he snore so loud!?).

2) You can leave the problem. This is when an issue can’t be fixed or the other person is unwilling to compromise. Honestly, this is the route I would take in this situation. Especially if she were saying those things to me.

3) You can change the way you view the situation. You can’t change other people. If you can’t ignore it, but you can’t leave either, then you need to start viewing the relationship in a different light. “She called me a slut so I don’t get raped again.” This is a very hard road to take, but it’s usually the best option.

With that said, she treats you, your mom, and your dad the way she does because you guys are enabling her to do so. If, every time she said something rude to one of you, you all turned your backs, she’s eventually learn that she needs to treat people with respect. And, I’ll also state, I all but guarantee she threatens suicide for attention. And giving her that attention isn’t healthy. It continues to give her a way to manipulate you all.