Parent of Gay Teens

lkalasapudi
Fri, 14 Sep 2007 21:37:39 +0000

Um…
Coming from someone gay himself…
Maybe it’s better for your son to pass over that hurdle of coming out to you himself. I felt, for me at least, that it was an excellent experience (however horribly the actual thing went) and liberating. And it gives a person more courage to do things on his own. If you ask him, it won’t give him that opportunity. I mean, of course you should let him know that you are supportive - like having your sister around more often or um, giving him hints…but for the actual coming out with…Try leaving it to him. Also because he needs to understand that you should know whether you’re supportive or not. He should take that risk. It’s like crossing a barrier without knowing what’s on the other side and that’s good preparation for future life. And besides, he has to be ready to come out with it. Maybe he is still in that questioning phase. Or maybe he is unsure. Or anything.
Good luck and tell us how it goes!